My oldest son is unmotivated. I hate it and I don’t know what to do about it. We are back in full swing with our schedule and first thing this morning I have to remind Christopher to complete his morning chores. Morning chores are simple get up, make your bed, brush your teeth, wash your face and put your clothes on. He then tells me that its to much work. (sigh) All the grand plans I had for the day gone down the drain with one sentence from this child.
I’m at a loss he only wants to play video games and play outside with his friends. I’ve explained to him video games/computer time are privileges that not all children have and we don’t have to allow these privileges. Then he begins to cry stating that I’ve hurt his feelings. Are you kidding me, asking him to have some personal responsibility hurts his feelings. Expressing to him that he will do chores because he is a member of this family and increasing his chores as he ages is this to much to ask. Showing him that when he visits his friends homes he still has to brush his teeth, etc. etc. What am I missing here?
What is going on? Why do I feel like I have to pull teeth for every single thing? I have spent so much time trying to create the perfect environment that was different from my upbringing. I want the kids to buy in so to speak. My mother was old school. Do as she said or else there was hell to pay. There were no reward charts, happy face cards or high fives for jobs well done. Yet for all my efforts, all I get in return is whining and disobedience. Man, this part of parenting is so hard. What do you do when you’ve read the books, taken the suggestions from friends or family members and the suggestions don’t work for your family? My first thought is take away privileges and be more strict but then I feel horrible and feel that I am creating a wedge between child and I. And, I don’t want to be “that weird” homeschool family whose kids don’t watch t.v. or play video games. Maybe I have it all wrong, maybe we should be that family without extra x, y, z.
Perhaps what I am experiencing is normal and my life will be this way until the children move out. So I ask you mothers out there ‘Have you become a frustrated recorder on repeat’? Do you find yourself requesting the same things constantly? Has this gotten better as the children age or worse? Any ideas/suggestions would be helpful.
*I decided to write this post today because I am a real mother with children who don’t always do what I would like for them to do. In other words I don’t have it all figured out. Sometimes blogs geared toward homeschooling can appear sugary sweet and that is not the case. This is what’s is happening in my life today and I have shared it with you. Now we are off to the library because I think we need some time out of the house.